Hello! Seiiti Arata. What about those difficult times that just overwhelm us and make us want to quit everything and cry like a baby? Here are three steps you can take to overcome them.
Hello! Seiiti Arata. The workplace is the source of much of our daily stress, because it is the place that we spend most of our time. Often it is filled with hostile people and time limits that make everyone a little short-tempered.
In the previous video we saw three routines to redesign our lifestyle and reduce stress.
Reduce your stress at work
Today we will be more specific about stress at work. Ready?
Hello! Seiiti Arata. Stress is a large part of all of our lives, but it affects us all differently.
Stress makes us more likely to make mistakes, and it can also have a dramatic impact on health, causing hormonal imbalances that lead to obesity and compulsive eating disorders, heart problems, bad sleep and grinding our teeth. Stress can make it difficult to control our emotions, bring out disease, affect our love lives.
Yet, some people find it easier than others to let the stress roll off their shoulders at the end of the day. How do they do that? Is it possible to design a different lifestyle with less stress so we can have a better life?
If you are interested, this video is for you, because stress is something we can all take control of. For that purpose, we will create routines for morning, day and evening.
Three routines to reduce your stress
With these three routines we can always keep ourselves in shape and manage stress better:
Hello! Seiiti Arata. Sometimes we worry too much.
We imagine how things might go wrong, and we start thinking and obsessing about the dangers lurking around. We feel pain and stress when we imagine the possible outcomes.
How to control your worry
What can we do about this exaggerated worry?
Hello! Seiiti Arata. When we experience problems and we want to talk about them, how can we talk in such a way that we’ll be heard?
There are four simple communication techniques we can use to avoid drama or giving the impression that we are just complaining.
How to talk about your problems (and be heard)
In the previous video we discovered how to stop complaining.
Complaining is inefficient when there are other options that can produce more results.
Just talking about our problems, however, can be fulfilling—as long as we do it in a positive way. This is what we will learn today. Get your pen and paper so we can start.
Hello! Seiiti Arata. Life is full of happy and sad moments. Of celebrations and disappointments. So it is normal to celebrate when we are happy and to feel the urge to start complaining when we are disappointed.
But looking at the matter rationally, complaining is an inefficient strategy. Complaining brings very little benefit for the time we spend on it.
How to stop complaining
Think about this with me: we have a limited amount of time. So, we want to make the best use of our time. This brings us to a question: what are the consequences we can expect from complaining?
Portuguese: Como encontrar propósito na vida (uma referência) | English: Finding purpose in life (a reference) | Spanish: Encontrar un propósito en la vida (una referencia)
Hello! Seiiti Arata. Last week we talked about how important it is to focus on one goal at a time. And some of you may say, but there are so many goals I want to pursue! Which goals should get priority?
It all depends on the context, but I find that goal-setting often brings even more powerful results when it is aligned with our life purpose.
There are many techniques to find our purpose, and this is a very long topic. It may take lots of work to find it, so it is natural that some people even get frustrated trying to find their purpose. This is why we are having this conversation. We will use a simple approach.
1. Finding purpose in life (a reference)
We can relax, because this is going to be a fun game. We don’t need to have the ambition to crystallise our definitive life purposes. We will simply find a reference, a quick guide.
This is best done in a quiet place, taking only a pen and a notepad. Write down the main question: What is my life purpose today?
Hello! Seiiti Arata. What do you do when you want to stay focused?
How to focus on one goal at a time
Focus is special because it influences other challenges in our lives: with better focus I can have more discipline; I can acquire better skills and more resources. This is why staying focused really matters and deserves priority.
1. Don’t say “yes” to everything
Focus determines our thoughts, our emotions, our reality. Whatever we focus on increases. However, when we are distracted and start chasing everything at a time, we dilute that focus.
Hello! Seiiti Arata. Our thoughts can focus either in the past, in the present moment or in the future. Let’s examine what happens in each of these choices.
1. Stuck in the past
So we get angry because of things that happened in the past. We are annoyed about something that happened just a few moments ago… or even a few years ago. We can create vivid mental movies about embarrassing situations; we can live again and again the unfair interactions from the past. But we can also spend hours lingering in the good memories of the past.
Hello! Seiiti Arata. Please don’t label me. Have you ever been labeled and felt how horrible it is to be misunderstood? Whenever someone is labelled, we lose so much.
Please don’t label me
There was this little girl. Amy. Two years old who arrived at the emergency room with her worried mother. Amy had stomach pain, which could be just a small digestive nuisance. Amy’s mother was so worried and agitated that the doctors started to pay more attention on her mother rather than on the actual patient, Amy.
The mother seemed like the type of person who would overreact.